Feminism is defined by its respect of other women’s choices

It is not an ideology of convenience.  Female identity and empowerment takes many forms.  Deriding the choices of millions of women because it does not fit your conceptualization of feminism defeats the purpose of feminism. 

I am a romance novelist and I wear my feminist badge proudly.  The two are not mutually exclusive, and to deem it so means that you misunderstand your own ethos.